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How Your Victim Mindset is Destroying You | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine
Israel is Losing - and They Know It | Imam Tom Live

Israel is Losing - and They Know It | Imam Tom Live

How to Fight the Israeli Backlash | Imam Tom Live

How to Fight the Israeli Backlash | Imam Tom Live

On the Gaza Ceasefire | Imam Tom Live

On the Gaza Ceasefire | Imam Tom Live

Courage in the Face of Israeli Censorship | Imam Tom Live

Courage in the Face of Israeli Censorship | Imam Tom Live

How To Become A Strong Muslim Leader | Imam Tom Live

How To Become A Strong Muslim Leader | Imam Tom Live

How to Develop Better Habits | Imam Tom Live

How to Develop Better Habits | Imam Tom Live

Does Protesting Work? | Imam Tom Live

Does Protesting Work? | Imam Tom Live

Michigan Mosques Say NO! | Imam Tom Live

Michigan Mosques Say NO! | Imam Tom Live

Musk's Take, Columbia's Skunk Surprise, Islamic Unity, and India's Ram Revelation | Imam Tom Live

Musk's Take, Columbia's Skunk Surprise, Islamic Unity, and India's Ram Revelation | Imam Tom Live

The Lives of Imams, Hate Crime in Texas, Israeli Humiliation, Ceasefire Resolutions | Imam Tom Live

The Lives of Imams, Hate Crime in Texas, Israeli Humiliation, Ceasefire Resolutions | Imam Tom Live

Israel Bombs Rafah During Superbowl, that Biden Tweet, and Constructive Conversations | Imam Tom Live

Israel Bombs Rafah During Superbowl, that Biden Tweet, and Constructive Conversations | Imam Tom Live

What Will Ramadan be Like in Rafah? A Conversation About Sha'aban and Leadership | Imam Tom Live

What Will Ramadan be Like in Rafah? A Conversation About Sha'aban and Leadership | Imam Tom Live

Unveiling Truths: Aaron Bushnell, NYT's Agenda, & Stopping Military Aid to Israel | Imam Tom Live

Unveiling Truths: Aaron Bushnell, NYT's Agenda, & Stopping Military Aid to Israel | Imam Tom Live

Biryani Diplomacy: The Illusion of Political Influence & the "Flour Massacre" | Imam Tom Live

Biryani Diplomacy: The Illusion of Political Influence & the "Flour Massacre" | Imam Tom Live

Live Revolution: The West Rallies for Gaza | Imam Tom Live

Live Revolution: The West Rallies for Gaza | Imam Tom Live

University Raids, Fake Negotiations, Holocaust Remembrance? | Imam Tom Live

University Raids, Fake Negotiations, Holocaust Remembrance? | Imam Tom Live

Do Influencers Owe their Followers Advocacy? | Imam Tom Live

Do Influencers Owe their Followers Advocacy? | Imam Tom Live

Israel's Ceasefire Rejection, Nurse Fired for Gaza, and the Law of Sacrifice | Imam Tom Live

Israel's Ceasefire Rejection, Nurse Fired for Gaza, and the Law of Sacrifice | Imam Tom Live

Muslim Influencers Profiting from Apartheid | Imam Tom Live

Muslim Influencers Profiting from Apartheid | Imam Tom Live

The Real Guise of 'Islamophobia' | Imam Tom Live

The Real Guise of 'Islamophobia' | Imam Tom Live

What France & UK's Electoral results mean for Muslims | Imam Tom Live

What France & UK's Electoral results mean for Muslims | Imam Tom Live

No Limits: Israel’s Growing Atrocities and Global Indifference | Imam Tom Live

No Limits: Israel’s Growing Atrocities and Global Indifference | Imam Tom Live

Falsehood is Bound to Vanish | Imam Tom Live

Falsehood is Bound to Vanish | Imam Tom Live

Hypocrisy at the DNC | Imam Tom Live

Hypocrisy at the DNC | Imam Tom Live

Empowering Student Activism | Imam Tom Live

Empowering Student Activism | Imam Tom Live

Remembering Aysenur's Courage | Imam Tom Live

Remembering Aysenur's Courage | Imam Tom Live

Muslim Votes Swing 2024 | Imam Tom Live

Muslim Votes Swing 2024 | Imam Tom Live

All Praise Be to Allah in Every Situation | Imam Tom Live

All Praise Be to Allah in Every Situation | Imam Tom Live

Oct 7th Changed Everything | Imam Tom Live

Oct 7th Changed Everything | Imam Tom Live

Allah Will Ask: What Did You Do With Your Freedom? | Imam Tom Live

Allah Will Ask: What Did You Do With Your Freedom? | Imam Tom Live

Surah Al-Kawthar & Atomic Habits | Imam Tom Live

Surah Al-Kawthar & Atomic Habits | Imam Tom Live

Atomic Habits: Why Most Quit Early | Imam Tom Weekly

Atomic Habits: Why Most Quit Early | Imam Tom Weekly

Surah An-Nas & Atomic Habits | Imam Tom Weekly

Surah An-Nas & Atomic Habits | Imam Tom Weekly

Why You Can't Resist Cravings (and How to Take Back Control) | Atomic Habits | Imam Tom Weekly

Why You Can't Resist Cravings (and How to Take Back Control) | Atomic Habits | Imam Tom Weekly

Surah Al-Ikhlas & Atomic Habits | Imam Tom Weekly

Surah Al-Ikhlas & Atomic Habits | Imam Tom Weekly

Surah Al-Masad & Atomic Habits | Imam Tom Weekly

Surah Al-Masad & Atomic Habits | Imam Tom Weekly

Why Reps Matter More than Time | Imam Tom Weekly

Why Reps Matter More than Time | Imam Tom Weekly

What Does Trump's Second Term Mean for Muslims? | Imam Tom Weekly

What Does Trump's Second Term Mean for Muslims? | Imam Tom Weekly

The Islamic Cure for Overconsumption | Imam Tom Weekly

The Islamic Cure for Overconsumption | Imam Tom Weekly

Doomscrolling is Rewiring Your Brain | Imam Tom Weekly

Doomscrolling is Rewiring Your Brain | Imam Tom Weekly

Trump Wants to Take Over Gaza | Imam Tom Weekly

Trump Wants to Take Over Gaza | Imam Tom Weekly

Will Celebrity Muslims Save Us? | Imam Tom Weekly

Will Celebrity Muslims Save Us? | Imam Tom Weekly

Why Don't Muslims Just Leave? | Imam Tom Weekly

Why Don't Muslims Just Leave? | Imam Tom Weekly

When Did Ramadan Become a Festival | Imam Tom Weekly

When Did Ramadan Become a Festival | Imam Tom Weekly

Muslims Are a People of Principle | Imam Tom Weekly

Muslims Are a People of Principle | Imam Tom Weekly

The Dark Truth About Secularism | Imam Tom Weekly

The Dark Truth About Secularism | Imam Tom Weekly

The Secret Cost of Individualism | Imam Tom Weekly

The Secret Cost of Individualism | Imam Tom Weekly

How Islamic History Was Frozen and Forgotten | Imam Tom Weekly

How Islamic History Was Frozen and Forgotten | Imam Tom Weekly

The Ummah or the Nation? | Imam Tom Weekly

The Ummah or the Nation? | Imam Tom Weekly

Debunking the 'Islamic Dilemma' | Imam Tom Weekly

Debunking the 'Islamic Dilemma' | Imam Tom Weekly

How Music Impacts Your Brain | Imam Tom Weekly

How Music Impacts Your Brain | Imam Tom Weekly

Malcolm X's Legacy We Forgot About | Imam Tom Weekly

Malcolm X's Legacy We Forgot About | Imam Tom Weekly

Hajj is the Great Equalizer | Imam Tom Facchine

Hajj is the Great Equalizer | Imam Tom Facchine

The Multi-Million Dollar War on Islam | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

The Multi-Million Dollar War on Islam | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

How Islam Completed what Christianity Began | Imam Tom Facchine

How Islam Completed what Christianity Began | Imam Tom Facchine

Why the Islamic Calendar Matters | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Why the Islamic Calendar Matters | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

How Colonialism Hijacked the Muslim World | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

How Colonialism Hijacked the Muslim World | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

What Activism Is Missing Today | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

What Activism Is Missing Today | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

How to Stop Chasing Validation | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

How to Stop Chasing Validation | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Representation Isn’t Working. Here’s Why. | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

Representation Isn’t Working. Here’s Why. | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

Is This Da’wah or Entertainment? | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Is This Da’wah or Entertainment? | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Islam Isn’t Just Therapy | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Islam Isn’t Just Therapy | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

The Hidden Bias in Every History Book | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

The Hidden Bias in Every History Book | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

How Your Victim Mindset is Destroying You | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine
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How Your Victim Mindset is Destroying You | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Modesty Is More Than What You Wear | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Modesty Is More Than What You Wear | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Will Recognition Help Palestine? | Snapshots by Imam Tom Facchine

Will Recognition Help Palestine? | Snapshots by Imam Tom Facchine

Israel’s Link to U.S. Anti-Terror Policy | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

Israel’s Link to U.S. Anti-Terror Policy | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

Living Up to the Prophet’s ﷺ Final Speech | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Living Up to the Prophet’s ﷺ Final Speech | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

How Should We View Gaza’s Celebrity Support? | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

How Should We View Gaza’s Celebrity Support? | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

How to Stop Falling for Fake Mahdis | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

How to Stop Falling for Fake Mahdis | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Columbus Wasn't Just After Gold – He Wanted Jerusalem | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

Columbus Wasn't Just After Gold – He Wanted Jerusalem | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

Why Some Scholars Critique Resistance | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

Why Some Scholars Critique Resistance | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

Why You Can’t Escape Organized Religion | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Why You Can’t Escape Organized Religion | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Kings Chased Thrones. He ﷺ Chased This Instead | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Kings Chased Thrones. He ﷺ Chased This Instead | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

What Islam Reveals About Socialism and Capitalism | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

What Islam Reveals About Socialism and Capitalism | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

What Real Masculinity Looks Like | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

What Real Masculinity Looks Like | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Amazon's Kill System & the Network Behind Sami's Detention | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

Amazon's Kill System & the Network Behind Sami's Detention | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

The Truth About AI’s Intelligence | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

The Truth About AI’s Intelligence | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

What the Qur’an Says About Christianity | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

What the Qur’an Says About Christianity | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

How Does the Qur’an View the Bible? | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

How Does the Qur’an View the Bible? | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

What ‘Allahu Akbar’ Really Means (And Why It Scares Them) | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

What ‘Allahu Akbar’ Really Means (And Why It Scares Them) | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Debunking the Myth of the ‘Oppressed Muslim Woman’ | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Debunking the Myth of the ‘Oppressed Muslim Woman’ | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Why Not Every Seat is One Worth Taking | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

Why Not Every Seat is One Worth Taking | Focal Point with Imam Tom Facchine

What Sharia Law Actually Means | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

What Sharia Law Actually Means | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Does Islam Actually Oppose Science? | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Does Islam Actually Oppose Science? | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

How ‘Taqiyya’ Became an Islamophobic Talking Point | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

How ‘Taqiyya’ Became an Islamophobic Talking Point | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Who's Your Real Enemy? | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Who's Your Real Enemy? | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

The Promise and Paradox of the Islamic Republic | Deep Dive: Iran Ep. 1 |  Imam Tom Facchine

The Promise and Paradox of the Islamic Republic | Deep Dive: Iran Ep. 1 | Imam Tom Facchine

Iran vs. Saudi Arabia: Who Represents the Ummah? | Deep Dive: Iran Ep. 2 |  Imam Tom Facchine

Iran vs. Saudi Arabia: Who Represents the Ummah? | Deep Dive: Iran Ep. 2 | Imam Tom Facchine

Should We Show Solidarity with Iran? | Deep Dive: Iran Ep. 3 |  Imam Tom Facchine

Should We Show Solidarity with Iran? | Deep Dive: Iran Ep. 3 | Imam Tom Facchine

Unforgettable Stories From Hajj | Imam Tom x Shaykh Elshinawy

Unforgettable Stories From Hajj | Imam Tom x Shaykh Elshinawy

Epstein and the Double Standard of Justice | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

Epstein and the Double Standard of Justice | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

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How Your Victim Mindset is Destroying You | Snapshots with Imam Tom Facchine

How do you respond to trauma? Do you let it consume you and strip you of your power?

We all experience painful events. It’s resilience that restores your dignity, not dwelling in victimhood. The perfect example? Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. He faced unimaginable hardship, but turned his pain into purpose.

This transcript was auto-generated using AI and may contain misspellings.
Islam teaches resilience, not self-pity. This is one of the casualties of our victim culture, culture war, and the left-right antagonism, and also with the proliferation of therapy culture.
There's a sweetness to being a victim in certain audiences, in certain company. That to be perceived as oppressed or to be perceived as a victim of something gives you street cred.
It gives even a type of social currency, and that can actually mess with your intentions. Allah actually says explicitly in Surah An-Nisa, "Are they seeking dignity from elsewhere? For all dignity belongs to Allah."
All dignity belongs to Allah. You're not gonna get dignity from anybody else on the face of this earth. You're not going to get dignity by being somebody else's oppressed minority or somebody else's victim case.
Dignity comes from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, and you find a lot of difference when it comes to how we tend to behave these days versus how the Companions behaved and how the early Muslims behaved.
With a modern therapeutic eye, we would say they experienced a lot of trauma. Absolutely. Both psychological, physical, tons of hardships.
Even the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ). You look at being raised as an orphan and having his caregivers pass away one at a time. Being ostracized from his clan and tribe and his homeland. Things that we would call today traumatic.
And yet we don't see the same leaning into that as we do today. We see a different type of resilience and response.
One that's not suppression, by the way. We don't want to run to the other extreme or the other caricature of just boomer generation robots that just don't talk about their feelings.
That's not what we're saying. But certainly the way that the early Muslims responded was through dignity and strength and redemption. Redemption of themselves but also redemption of those around them.
It wasn't falling prey to a grievance culture where we're constantly just indirectly benefiting from being a victim. One of the Hanbali scholars, he talked about how people can show off in anything.
And certainly if you've ever heard of the oppression Olympics, people can show off in anything. How oppressed you are or how messed up your life is or whatever. You might remember back in university or in high school you used to complain about how much work you had to do.
And somebody else sort of one-ups you and then you try to one-up them about how little sleep you got, how little food you've eaten. People can show off in anything. So we have to be careful not to fall into this funnel of being pleased or content with being a victim.
Even if we are victimized. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has a purpose to the things that we suffer. And the purpose to the things that we suffer is supposed to bring us transformation.
It's supposed to bring us to another place and another reality where we're actually closer to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. We're actually more dedicated to our principles and our values.
We're actually more willing to sacrifice in His cause and suffer things in His cause because we have been shown something of reality. We have been shown something of Allah's control.
So we have to understand that as Muslims we rely upon Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for everything. And we trust that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has a plan for us. There's this idea of wayfaring.
And perhaps that's one of the things missing from victim culture or grievance culture is that there's no wayfaring. Where are we going? Where are we headed? Where's our redemption? Where's our triumph?
If we are Yusuf (عليه السلام), to give a Quranic example, we might be in the well now. We might be in prison now. But how do we get to the end?
How do we make Allah's hope for us, which is better than our hope for ourselves to be honest, how do we make that happen? And what do we have to do to get there?